tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post2093170706874620325..comments2024-03-20T01:25:27.820-05:00Comments on Cheese Curds and Kimchi: Positive adoption language (or how NOT to refer to your child)Pixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17742248761172865856noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post-53594108974140386462013-10-18T08:01:55.531-05:002013-10-18T08:01:55.531-05:00Not sure. See the reply I wrote to Heather which a...Not sure. See the reply I wrote to Heather which addresses the same thing. Hoping for the best for her children!Pixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17742248761172865856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post-23667884348610147592013-10-18T08:01:28.044-05:002013-10-18T08:01:28.044-05:00Not sure if she was doing that or not. But why wou...Not sure if she was doing that or not. But why wouldn't you say oldest and youngest in that case? There are only 2 daughters and they are 7 years apart. Or even, say adopted and bio, but adopted and "my" are two very different things. I sure hope the kids don't feel it either, but it gave me a pit in my stomach!Pixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17742248761172865856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post-55261898043611020662013-10-16T13:33:18.780-05:002013-10-16T13:33:18.780-05:00I have adopted siblings and I've never heard e...I have adopted siblings and I've never heard either of my parents refer to any of their kids as the "adopted" one. So yeah, that would probably rub me the wrong way. But could she have been doing it inadvertently as a way to differentiate for the woman she was speaking to? Instead of saying "my older daughter" or "my younger daughter"? I do think adoption language has become much more sensitive over the last decade, so maybe she just isn't as educated? Hopefully her daughters don't feel any differentiated within their family.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07687848140471196822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post-64664391402352762562013-10-16T11:05:01.703-05:002013-10-16T11:05:01.703-05:00Strange, indeed. I would never personally differen...Strange, indeed. I would never personally differentiate my kids that way in casual conversation with someone I just met (and I have one of each), or share family history that way. Was she doing it for effect so stranger #2 knew WHICH daughter she was talking about? I hope her daughter is okay...Annie Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00851156767173316716noreply@blogger.com