tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post6664486329066277836..comments2024-03-20T01:25:27.820-05:00Comments on Cheese Curds and Kimchi: Adoptee blogs & Harlow's MonkeyPixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17742248761172865856noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post-21767631823099247872010-08-30T17:19:05.956-05:002010-08-30T17:19:05.956-05:00It is definitely hard for me, as an adoptive-paren...It is definitely hard for me, as an adoptive-parent-to-be, to think that my child could feel this way sometime. (We're adopting domestically of course, but we don't know what race/nationality we may be lucky enough to adopt.) <br /><br />It breaks my heart that an adoptee might feel as if their adoptive parents did them a disservice, when what I'm trying to do (aside from becoming a Mommy for my own selfish purposes) is to love a child more than anything in the world and give him or her the best life possible. It's so hard for me to think that the child may grow up to feel like I wronged them by adopting them.<br /><br />That said, you're right. I do try - hard - to understand where they're coming from. I wouldn't be any sort of adoptive parent if I wasn't willing to at least try. Again, you're right, their truth is THEIR truth and perception is reality. All I can do is the best I can to love my child, keep him or her in touch with their culture/heritage regardless of what that may be, and hope and pray that it's 'enough.' :)<br /><br />Thank you for posting this!!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07772427117417427298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post-4918127156904939282010-08-30T14:43:32.825-05:002010-08-30T14:43:32.825-05:00You're right that it's important to explor...You're right that it's important to explore all angles of adoption, and it's easy to focus only on the good, or only the bad. I'll check out the post you highlighted on Harlow's blog, and am anxious to look at the rest too!<br />I definitely fear that our children will one day resent what has happened to them, or worse, resent US. But if I let that fear be the predominant motivator in my life, life sure wouldn't be much fun. I love, though, the frequent reality check of different perspectives.Elizabeth Frickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04369568911391997731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post-52096916549935013342010-08-30T11:50:41.631-05:002010-08-30T11:50:41.631-05:00Its too bad Harlow won't be contributing her v...Its too bad Harlow won't be contributing her voice anymore. As hard as it is to read sometimes, I think its so important to hear what adoptees' experiences. As an adoptive parent, its painful for me to accept that love isn't enough, that the loss of their biological families and birth countries may haunt my children no matter what I do. Yet I believe my children have the right to both feel and express their emotions and I want to learn the best way to allow them to do that - even if what they have to say is hard for me to hear.Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06368344688034538089noreply@blogger.com