tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post8954446346953342992..comments2024-03-20T01:25:27.820-05:00Comments on Cheese Curds and Kimchi: What's in a name?Pixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17742248761172865856noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post-3031973746738685212010-05-22T14:34:37.713-05:002010-05-22T14:34:37.713-05:00Fascinating! Thanks for sharing this analysis!ICLW...Fascinating! Thanks for sharing this analysis!<br><br>ICLW<br>http://daega99-arewethereyet.blogspot.com/daega99http://www.blogger.com/profile/05925235183784718592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post-52439809464065792822010-05-22T15:12:49.518-05:002010-05-22T15:12:49.518-05:00Really interesting post. I'm going to check ou...Really interesting post. I'm going to check out the link. Funny, almost everyone we've told about our plans has asked if we'll be changing our child's name. We haven't decided yet, but we're leaning toward changing his first name to an "American" one, and preserving his birth name as his middle name. A lot depends on what his name actually is, though! I hate the thought of him having to spend his life pronouncing, spelling, and explaining it to people... it's a tough decision.Amyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00878950799184801095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post-30231459140643933502010-05-22T16:37:47.999-05:002010-05-22T16:37:47.999-05:00Amy, we are in exactly the same boat. I too worry ...Amy, we are in exactly the same boat. I too worry about the challenges of having a non-traditional American name. But my name is hardly traditional, I've constantly had to respell if for people and correct their pronunciation too, and I don't think I'm too scarred. Wishing you the best in figuring this out...it's tough!K&Shttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01911686821049867944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post-39492764919787400192010-05-22T16:45:21.143-05:002010-05-22T16:45:21.143-05:00Very interesting post! I have given this some tho...Very interesting post! I have given this some thought too. Both my brothers are Korean and my parents changed their names (first and middle) to American names. I'm not sure my brothers minded. We grew up in a very "midwestern" town (read white) where everybody had "midwestern" names, so they would have stood out even more with their Korean names. Interestingly brother #1's high-school nickname was his Korean last name. <br>And having grown up with the second-most popular name from the mid 70s, I can assure you that I wish my parents had thought to be a little more original when choosing my name. It kind of sucked having 7 people in my graduating class named Heather...Heatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11568731053148296398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post-8343344046219113002010-05-22T18:54:49.359-05:002010-05-22T18:54:49.359-05:00It's such a personal decision! We discuss it ...It's such a personal decision! We discuss it often and we aren't even fully on the same page yet. I'm sure we will be when the time comes to make any real decisions (since we're still early in the process). Thinking of you! Thanks for your thoughts!Christyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03228094717864369438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post-32178505961955495232010-05-23T00:45:36.522-05:002010-05-23T00:45:36.522-05:00I am with you that a name sort of defines who you ...I am with you that a name sort of defines who you are, but remember that often the names we choose to be called as we grow up define us just as much and are an expression of how we like to see ourselves. I think keeping the original name will give your child the option to hold onto his/her heritage, but s/he may feel that his/her heritage is in your family. If I were in your shoes (and I'm not so I don;t really know at all) I think I would hold onto the original name and give the child a name I choose too first and second names and it probably doesn't matter which way round it goes, whichever sounds right. But this is just my take on it from the perspective of someone who has no idea.<br><br>Wishing you all the very best with your path to parenthood and all the tough decisions that all parents have to take to do the very best they know how for the well being of their children.<br><br>Happy ICLW!mommyinwaitinghttp://mommyinwaiting.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post-56155411869130954742010-05-23T20:21:24.146-05:002010-05-23T20:21:24.146-05:00What an interesting question. I have never though...What an interesting question. I have never thought about this before, though I have known a number of families who adopted internationally.<br><br>It seems like this process must really reveal a lot about people you come in contact with--"raise him American"--?!?!?<br><br>Regarding the decision, you will make the best decision you can at the time, with the information you have. It is so easy for me to second guess myself later. I can imagine that would be even easier to do with decisions made about our children.<br><br>ICLWQuiet Dreamshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13852998912734693621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post-33128648726618819132010-05-23T21:49:20.441-05:002010-05-23T21:49:20.441-05:00I love this quote. I also just read your post abo...I love this quote. I also just read your post about the baby name. what a lovely idea. I love the meaning behind keeping the baby's name. I wanted to wish you the very best of luck on your journey.<br>Thank you for your comments on my blog<br>~ICLW~cgdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13174907373129154516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post-3573776078492330492010-05-23T22:59:34.435-05:002010-05-23T22:59:34.435-05:00This is a beautiful post.Fwiw - I agree with the b...This is a beautiful post.<br><br>Fwiw - I agree with the blogger you mentioned. A birthname is a part of the child's history, and especially doing an intercountry and intercultural adoption, I would think it would be even more important to maintain that link to his birth country.<br><br>There is nothing to say that you can't give him a second name of your choosing.<br><br>Where I live there are a huge number of refugees and immigrant families from all over the world. Many of them choose to take an "Anglo/Western" name as well as their name at birth. For instance, the beautiful african baby in class with my baby at daycare - his given name is Obol, but his parents also like to refer to him as Frank. So he is referred to by either name, and he maintains his cultural heritage with his given name, but also has a name that they feel "fits" with the country he is being raised in. This is really common where I live and seems to work for all the children and young adults I have encountered.<br><br>Something to think about maybe?Suzyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10979257233557088253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post-67283642341840306552010-05-27T09:17:32.054-05:002010-05-27T09:17:32.054-05:00What a thought provoking post!! My Godson was adop...What a thought provoking post!! My Godson was adopted and my cousins changed his name. To actually be a Jr of his Adopted fathers name. I know for a fact his birth mother gave him his name. And I wish they would have let him keep it. Or at least add a new name to it so he would have had that connection. Because now he is at the age where he is asking questions and he knows what country he came from. I know more questions will be coming soon. I'm so glad your thinking of letting Seoul Baby keep that connection to his birthplace. And I'm so glad you are putting this out there for other parents to think about. <br>Thanks for stopping by!!!<br><br>ICLW #62Mrs. Farmerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966528708086066691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7146102599533184840.post-35423312807856532322010-06-06T10:57:38.691-05:002010-06-06T10:57:38.691-05:00Thank you for sharing this with me. I really appr...Thank you for sharing this with me. I really appreciated this post as well as the linked entry from Twice the Rice. Regarding that last paragraph about raising him American, I think that some people tend to view Asian Americans as perpetual outsiders simply due to external characteristics such as their name and appearance. Even though I am a US citizen, go by an anglicized name and speak English fluently, I still had classmates who assumed I was a foreign exchange student in both grade school and college.Soohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07424964631493987311noreply@blogger.com