"What a revolting, solipsistic, narcisistic, self-centered, disgusting, heinous, odious, noisome, pathetic paean to everything that might possibly be wrong with Anglo-Saxon capitalist society and the dregs of humanity that it produces. Have you not one ounce of shame in that pea-sized thing in your head you call a brain? Have you no respect for anythign in this world other than your own self-glorification via your own mediation? I pray for the day when this child grows up, returns to Korea, and attempts to make up for the horrowshow that you will make of his life. There are 500 adult adoptees from the Korean diaspora who have returned to that country to shut down adoption there, and you would spit in their faces in order to fulfill what? Your destiny as members of an "elite of existence" who get to play God with other people's lives? How puke-worthy. If I started throwing up now and didn't stop for 100 years, it still wouldn't express how disgusting you are." Signed, daniel.ibnzayd
Open response to daniel.ibnzayd:
How dare you speak on behalf of all Korean adoptees. You are absolutely entitled to your opinion. But by no means do you represent the entire group of adoptees. Your opinion is that...your own.
What I feel for you is pity and sadness. It's a pity that you live your life filled with so much hate and anger, not only towards adoptive parents, but also for yourself. You also seem to spread your hate towards whites and specifically Americans. That's a lot of hate consuming you.
I'm totally open to hearing and learning more about how adoptees, particularly Korean adoptees feel. I'm not so innocent to believe that adoption is a perfect solution. And I know that it can cause immense pain for adoptees. I believe that the more I understand the journey, the better I can be at helping my son along his path. But diatribes filled with hate such as yours prevent any beneficial communication from taking place and end all discussion. Instead of reaching out to adoptive parents and helping other adoptees, you are alienating them.
So since you believe adoption is so wrong, I ask you: What exactly are you doing to help adoptees in Korea now? Yes, there is a group attempting to end international adoption, but considering that the culture of Korea is not fully accepting of single mothers or adoptees, what will happen to these children? What lives would you have them live? Would they be less pained by living in an orphanage in their country of origin? Or is it better to be loved and in a family, and return to your country as an adult?
Are you working to change the culture of acceptance for unwed mothers? Are you working to promote adoption within Korea? Instead of using your energy and brains to rant about how terrible Korean international adoption is, why not use them to help improve the system for adoptees int he future.
Although it's none of your business, I absolutely hope my child returns to Korea one day to learn what a wonderful country it is. To learn what a strong and passionate group people he comes from. I hope he contributes to society--be it in the U.S. or in Korea, or perhaps both--and he will share his gifts of love, passion and education to help others.
I'm sorry you have not learned the tools to work through your pain. I'm sorry that you allow adoption to be the scapegoat for all that seems to be wrong in your life. I hope you learn to move past this hatred, because it's consuming you (if you are trolling blogs and leaving such nasty comments, you seem to be consumed and are determined to inflict pain on others instead of trying to find ways to change the system).
Your hatred helps no one.
Best of luck.